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Couples Counselling

Marriage and Couples Counselling at The Good Life Therapy Centre

Are you considering couples counselling or marriage counselling sessions to navigate the tumultuous waters of your relationship? We're here to assure you that if you choose to work with us and we decide to work with you, change is not just a possibility – it's a guarantee, even before your first marriage counselling session!
Do you find yourselves stuck in a never-ending cycle of painful and unresolved arguments?
Are you and your partner struggling to communicate openly and resolve deep-seated differences?
Perhaps you've faced a betrayal, or there's an unaddressed addiction problem that's casting a shadow over your relationship.

In a time when divorce rates are alarmingly high in Vancouver, Canada, and the prevailing “throwaway” mentality toward marriage is pervasive in our society, we firmly believe that, no matter how long your relationship has been mired in difficulties, you can choose to change and grow. You can overcome the pain, disappointments, and communication struggles. Our goal is to guide you towards bringing about this transformation by following our expert lead and applying what you learn to achieve the ultimate relationship outcomes.

There are many reasons for seeking professional therapist help for your relationship and all of them are equally important. Every couple deserves the fulfilling relationship they aspire to. Some couples approach marriage counselling with doubts about whether their relationship is worth saving, and they need the guidance of a trained therapist professional to discuss their difficult emotions. Others have decided to go their separate ways but seek help in creating the best possible co-parenting relationship for the sake of their children’s well-being. However, the majority of the couples we work with are committed to nurturing a loving and enduring partnership. Yet, they often lack the skills required to sustain such a relationship over time. Instead, they unwittingly reenact the traumatic relationship patterns they learned from their past experiences.

Compounding the challenges for couples trying to salvage their marriages is the constant bombardment of media images depicting breakups and quick rebounds. We offer a different perspective – one that empowers you to develop the skills necessary to navigate the common relationship issues most couples encounter and rekindle the love that initially brought you together.

If you can relate to these struggles or have experienced distress in your primary relationship, the good news is that there is a way forward.

Why Choose the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy for Marriage Counselling?

To put it simply – it’s the best choice, without a doubt.

While other approaches may claim to be more popular or marketed with more flair, what matters most when your relationship is at a critical juncture, requiring healing, revitalization, or even rescue, is depth. You need proven methods that offer lasting transformation, not just momentary relief. Superficial “quick fixes” often lead to the frustrating one-step-forward, two-steps-back scenario and contribute to the high divorce rate. Why settle for second best? Why opt for temporary relief when enduring freedom is within reach? Instead of chasing fleeting solutions, roll up your sleeves, unearth the root causes of your relational struggles, and equip yourself with the skills and capacities essential for lasting change.

The Developmental Model equips you with the tools for transforming your personal and relationship stressors, providing clear guidance on the path to lasting transformation.

The Founders Of The Developmental Model Of Couples Therapy

The remarkable effectiveness of this approach owes much to its creators, Drs. Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson, co-founders of the Couples Institute (www.couplesinstitute.com). These two professionals are more than just colleagues; they have been life partners for four decades. Their commitment to bringing effective therapy to couples, even when the field considered it challenging and irrelevant, speaks volumes about their pioneering spirit.

They have developed an approach deeply rooted in the pursuit of becoming the best version of one’s human self. Their extensive experience includes leading countless couples’ retreats, training therapists worldwide, and authoring the influential book, “Tell Me No Lies: How to Stop Lying to Your Partner – and You – in the 4 Stages of Marriage.” This resource has enlightened countless couples and therapists about the complexities of relationships.

Passing the Torch

I am privileged to consider myself one of the therapists who have benefitted from these mentors, continually learning and growing. Not only do I believe I possess the most effective theoretical and practical approach, but I’ve also grown in my personal development and the quality of my own relationships. Much of my success stems from their support, encouragement, and their model of striving to be exceptional human beings. They consistently exemplify kindness, compassion, and unparalleled brilliance.

The Founders Lead the Way

If we decide to collaborate, you’ll be in capable hands.

Since we can only share what we possess, I’ve passed on my learning by training associates who provide services at our Centre. With the wisdom and knowledge of Bader and Pearson behind us, our team will make every effort to uphold their example, recognizing that they have equipped us well for our mission. If you’re prepared to embark on this essential journey of self-discovery, we eagerly anticipate assisting you.

At The Good Life Therapy Centre in Vancouver, BC, you’ll acquire the knowledge and skills to bring about a positive change in your relationship:

Learn to engage in difficult conversations that have long been avoided in your marriage.
Develop conflict management skills to remain composed during disagreements.
Cultivate teamwork to support each other in your relationship's evolution.
Rediscover passion and create the sexual connection you desire.
Express your deepest desires, dreams, and fears, fostering a more intimate bond with your partner.
Elevate yourself to become the best version of yourself and the best partner you can be.
Stay true to your individuality while deepening your connection with your partner.
Make tough life decisions with clarity and integrity.

Our aim is to restore your hope that change is possible. We want to convey the message that you can grow into the people you aspire to be, as very rarely is all hope lost.

Consider This Couple's Experience In Early Therapy:

Sophie: “I knew I loved him and wanted to be with him, but I couldn’t communicate at all. Our exchanges were immensely frustrating, reaching a point where we’d just walk away from each other – we had hit an impasse.”

Bill: “I couldn’t communicate either; I was consumed by anger and mistrust. I felt triggered and contemplated leaving, but at the same time, I cared about her. I didn’t believe there was much hope; I thought a couples therapist would see that we shouldn’t be together and tell us so. Learning about the emotional brain and how it gets triggered helped me understand where Sophie’s reactions were coming from. I used to believe it was all about me, but now I don’t blame her.”

Sophie: “I can be more objective now and not take Bill’s responses so personally. I also take more responsibility for my reactions and even take a ‘pause’ before responding. I’m less fearful than before. We can discuss tough issues now and remain together.”

Bill: “We now have so much hope for our relationship. The dread I felt, that we were doomed and I wanted out, is gone. There’s a plan in your process, and you’re helping us get to where we want to be slowly. It’s almost scary how good it could be.”

Sophie: “We’re closer and so in love right now.”

The Solution Lies Within

Our world often directs our attention outward, but when addressing relationship breakdowns, it’s more constructive to turn the focus inward. Blaming your partner for the issues only leads to deadlocks. “If only he/she would change, everything would be fine” is a common misconception. It takes partners who are willing to explore their contribution to the marital break-down and commit to applying what they learn in sessions to build and maintain a fulfilling marriage.

Our approach to couples counselling and marriage counselling doesn’t merely aim to fix problems; it’s about creating the relationship you desire and evolving into the best version of yourself.

Differentiation Is the Key to Healthy Functioning

The Bader-Pearson Developmental Model is an approach that focuses on the developmental process within couples, taking into account their unique dynamics, history, and challenges. It’s an approach that acknowledges the profound effect of early attachment and past experiences on adult relationships.

By exploring and understanding these deeper issues, we can help couples manage conflicts, improve communication, and foster emotional intimacy. The goal is not just to resolve immediate issues but to equip you with the abilities and developmental capacities to navigate life’s challenges together.

The Role of a Couples Therapist

A couples therapist plays a vital role in guiding couples through the therapeutic process. They provide a safe and supportive environment where partners can explore their concerns, communicate openly, and work toward solutions. The counselling therapist uses evidence-based techniques and therapeutic approaches, such as the Developmental Model, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, and the Gottman Method, for solving problems for a wide range of relationship issues.

Whether you’re dealing with communicating openly, emotional abuse, anger management, or issues related to intimacy and trust, a skilled therapist can help you find constructive ways to address and resolve these challenges. They can also assist you in developing essential relationship coping strategies to solve problems and navigate life transitions.

Couples Counselling

In some cases, individual therapy may complement couples counselling. Individual therapy can be beneficial when one partner has personal issues or trauma that need to be addressed to improve the overall success of the marriage.

Our Approach

At The Good Life Therapy Centre, we are committed to helping couples and individuals create healthier, happier relationships. We understand that every person and relationship is unique, which is why we tailor our counselling services to meet your specific needs.

Our experienced clinical therapists are trained in a variety of therapeutic approaches, including the Developmental Model, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, the Gottman Method, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. We will work closely with you to explore your concerns, develop a deeper understanding of your marriage, and provide you with the support and guidance needed to overcome challenges and improve communication.

Improving Communication and Building Intimacy

Effective communication is at the heart of a strong and healthy relationship. Our counselling experts will help you and your partner learn to communicate openly, honestly, and respectfully. We’ll guide you in expressing your needs, emotions, and concerns in a way that fosters understanding and empathy.

Building intimacy is another essential aspect of a fulfilling marriage. We’ll help you and your partner reconnect on a deeper level, rediscover the emotional and physical aspects of your connection, and create a strong foundation for long-term happiness.

Manage Conflict and Resolve Problems

Conflict is a natural part of any relationship. A therapist at Good Life Therapy will teach you a valuable conflict management skill set, helping you navigate disagreements and challenges with composure and respect. You’ll learn how to identify the underlying issues, address them constructively, and find solutions that work for both partners.

Find Hope and Healing

If you’re facing difficulties in your marriage, it’s important to know that there is hope for positive change. Through our tailored couples and individual counselling services, you can overcome challenges, heal from past wounds, and create the fulfilling relationship you desire.

If you’re ready to take the first step towards a healthier, happier marriage, contact us here in Vancouver, BC at The Good Life Therapy Centre today. Our experienced clinical therapists are here to support you on your journey to greater well-being and relationship satisfaction.